Why Self-Worth Matters More Than Self-Esteem
We often use “self-worth” and “self-esteem” as if they’re the same thing. In reality, they’re not — and knowing the difference can transform how we view ourselves and how we handle stress.
🌿 Self-Esteem: Performance-Based Value
Self-esteem is how we evaluate ourselves, often based on achievements, feedback, or success. It can feel good when things go well — but it’s fragile. One failed exam, a critical comment at work, or a missed deadline, and self-esteem can plummet.
💜 Self-Worth: Unconditional Value
Self-worth goes deeper. It’s the belief that we are valuable simply for existing. It doesn’t depend on achievements, performance, or external validation. Self-worth says: “Even if I didn’t succeed today, I still matter.”
🧠 Why the Difference Matters
You can appear confident, with high self-esteem, yet quietly carry low self-worth. This often shows up as imposter syndrome, people-pleasing, or burnout. Without a strong foundation of self-worth, achievements never feel like enough.
In workplaces, this distinction is critical:
Employees with strong self-worth are more resilient to setbacks.
Those with fragile self-esteem may look successful but struggle internally.
✨ Tools to Build Both
CBT Tools: Notice negative self-evaluations (“I always fail”) and challenge them with evidence.
Counselling Insights: Explore where your inner critic originated — early criticism, comparison, or neglect.
Holistic Practices: Use affirmations like “I am enough as I am” with grounding rituals (lavender, rose quartz).
Reflection: Each day, write down one confidence step (esteem) and one unconditional truth (worth).
🌿 Final Thought
Self-esteem is about what we do. Self-worth is about who we are. When you nurture both, you create a balance — capable in action, and at peace within yourself.
🎧 For a deeper dive, listen to this week’s episode of The Aromacee Approach Podcast: https://aromacee.podbean.com/
Download the free Self-Worth vs Self-Esteem worksheet here
